Is it Social Media or Anti-Social Media?

  • SumoMe

I’ve written and commented numerous times on the topic of social media, particularly as it pertains to my Facebook page. I primarily do that to re-emphasize my policy when it comes to the type of content I will allow to be posted on my page.

  • I do not tolerate profanity
  • I will not accept personal attacks, whether they are directed at me or when someone attacks a person commenting on one of the discussion threads (if you are a “Facebook Friend” then you should conduct yourself as one)
  • And I don’t put up with people who go to my page and post content or images that cross the line in terms of being respectful or being in bad taste

Despite clearly communicating this regularly over the past couple of years, some people don’t get the message.

I have estimated I have unfriended about 200 people during that time. When I have done so, I let the rest of my 5,000-person Facebook community know. I don’t name the offender, but I do explain that their actions have resulted in them either being warned or blocked.

My Facebook Rules

My Facebook Rules

I even produced a slide that outlined my “rules” and the basic standards of decency and respect I expected from people who posted on my page. Between those two things, I hoped to remind everyone that I expected them to respect my guidelines.

I do not allow cursing and profanity on my radio show. If Roe and I invited someone to our home and they started to insult everyone and behave like a boor, they would quickly be shown the door.

So why would anyone think I would (or should) accept that on my Facebook page?

Your Facebook Page Is Your Online Front Yard

Your Facebook page is your “online front yard” of Facebook. So if you are sitting on your front porch, how would you feel if a neighbor, acquaintance or someone you barely knew dumped garbage on your front yard? Or posted an offensive lawn sign on your property?

Here’s what would likely happen: passers-by would assume that garbage or offensive sign was your doing? Or, at the very least, they would conclude you had no problem with allowing others to conduct themselves like that on your property.

Just yesterday, somebody published a poster parody on my Facebook page. It contained profanity. It had a vulgar message for the president. It was in poor taste. And it wasn’t funny. If common sense was a baseball game, this person went 0-for-4.

I removed the post and sent a warning to the offending party.

Later, I posted on Facebook that I removed a post for bad language and bad taste. In the discussion thread that followed, someone else posted a meme that contained profanity.

Was that person trying to be funny or stupid? Or maybe that person mistakenly believed he was special and that the rules did not apply to him?

Look, I am not a prude. I hear grown-up language like that all the time. But does that mean I have to accept it on my Facebook page?

To me, it’s about maintaining some standards. And about having respect for the boundaries of others.

And some people have a problem with that. They have difficulty expressing their opinions in a civil and respectful manner.

So they take the easy way out.

They resort to personal attacks and insults.

They denigrate and demonize those that disagree with their opinions.

And they fail to heed to respect the rules and boundaries of others. As often as I have published my “rules” for how I expect people to conduct themselves, there will always be a few people who disregard them and force their vulgar content and conduct on others like a sharp stick in the eye. Or they are “shocked” or “outraged” when they are criticized for doing something that was clearly against that person’s wishes.

It’s a free country. They are entitled to do that. They just won’t be doing that on my radio show or Facebook page.

What do you think?


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